lessons from a power belly.

I envy the elasticity he has in his body. “I’ve lived on wine for the last 8 weeks. Of course I have a power belly.” Never have those last two words been juxtaposed in regards to my body. I’m naked. Lying in bed above the covers, watching him get dressed. He does have a little

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I wish someone had told me…

I’ve started to have the condom discussion before jumping in bed with someone. Perhaps that seems obvious. It wasn’t. “Condoms. These will be a thing or I will not be a thing.” I’d like to say that I have this conversation before we get in bed because I’m that solid in who I am. But

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are relationships customizable?

It’s the final week of collaborating with the brilliant and dashing, Chance Taureau (at least for now.) Relationships: can we go full hipster and make them unique butterflies, or should we stick to what we’ve been given…? Maddie Berky: I have mini existential crises in airplane bathrooms. The space being too small as to make

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can I love up close?

I’ve loved men who aren’t here. I don’t change the sheets after they leave. I keep hung the towel they used after getting out of the shower. I use it for days hoping that it’ll help me remember what it felt like for them to be here, that some part of them remains in the

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when is money connected to masculinity?

This week in collaboration w/Chance Taureau: how can money get in our way in relationship and what are its ties to the masculine? Maddie Berky: We’re a pre-nup family. It was the only thing discussed in relation to love and cash flow growing up. Love whomever you want, but sign a pre-nup. Protect yourself. Wouldn’t

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my best ask-out, to date.

“Come to dinner with me and you won’t be seeing anyone else.” I almost dropped my phone. I definitely stopped folding my laundry. I was actively dating, and honestly I wanted a possible way out. I’d told him I was in the “kind of, sort of seeing someone phase.” Which was true. And, exit strategy.

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sex w/one person forever: net gain or net loss?

Truth about me: I’m not sure where I land in monogamy. Monogamist? Monogamish? It’s a range I’m curious about. This week in collaboration with Chance Taureau we look at commitment. What’s terrifying and what’s enriching. Maddie Berky: I don’t want you to be the last person I have sex with… Not the ideal thought to

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“so what’s my bullshit?”

“I want to know what my bullshit is. Is that under the umbrella of therapy?” I started seeing my therapist years ago as a preemptive measure. I wasn’t in crisis, but knowing the general concentration of my feelings, it seemed like a good call to get the ball rolling. “Yes. Absolutely under the therapy umbrella.

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when do we share our fears?

This week’s collab w/ Taureau Consulting: When and how much of ourselves do we share with our partner? ** Maddie Berky: I’m trying this weird thing lately. It’s called, reverse honeymooning. You know that period of time in the beginning of a relationship where you’re giddy on not knowing each other? There’s no conflict. No

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he told me why I don’t date. he was right.

“I think you don’t want to date anyone because you think you’ll turn back into who you used to be.” I had just said I didn’t want to date him. He had just told me why. Sure, there were a lot of other reasons why. And a lot of other responses that would have made

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