I’ve loved men who aren’t here. I don’t change the sheets after they leave. I keep hung the towel they used after getting out of the shower. I use it for days hoping that it’ll help me remember what it felt like for them to be here, that some part of them remains in the
This week in collaboration w/Chance Taureau: how can money get in our way in relationship and what are its ties to the masculine? Maddie Berky: We’re a pre-nup family. It was the only thing discussed in relation to love and cash flow growing up. Love whomever you want, but sign a pre-nup. Protect yourself. Wouldn’t
“Come to dinner with me and you won’t be seeing anyone else.” I almost dropped my phone. I definitely stopped folding my laundry. I was actively dating, and honestly I wanted a possible way out. I’d told him I was in the “kind of, sort of seeing someone phase.” Which was true. And, exit strategy.
Truth about me: I’m not sure where I land in monogamy. Monogamist? Monogamish? It’s a range I’m curious about. This week in collaboration with Chance Taureau we look at commitment. What’s terrifying and what’s enriching. Maddie Berky: I don’t want you to be the last person I have sex with… Not the ideal thought to
“I want to know what my bullshit is. Is that under the umbrella of therapy?” I started seeing my therapist years ago as a preemptive measure. I wasn’t in crisis, but knowing the general concentration of my feelings, it seemed like a good call to get the ball rolling. “Yes. Absolutely under the therapy umbrella.
This week’s collab w/ Taureau Consulting: When and how much of ourselves do we share with our partner? ** Maddie Berky: I’m trying this weird thing lately. It’s called, reverse honeymooning. You know that period of time in the beginning of a relationship where you’re giddy on not knowing each other? There’s no conflict. No
Communication: my longest lasting committed relationship. This week Chance Taureau and I ask the question, “is all communication is created equal?” Maddie Berky: One of my greatest triggers is feeling unwanted. In so many of my early relationships I felt alone. Like I wanted the other person more than they wanted me. And I did.
Most women get breasts around puberty. I got them at age 28. Well, I got them again at age 28, two years after breast implants and I were deemed “incompatible.” The week I moved to Denver I got breast implants. “I don’t want titties, I want breasts” I kept telling my surgeon, terrified that I’d
Sexy collab time with Chance Taureau. This week what changes in a relationship when sexting is brought out of the wings and put on the main stage. Maddie Berky: I feel like I need a mulligan for every sexual experience I had before age 26. Sex in my early twenties was kind of like riding